After the Storm: How to Heal From a Traumatic Breakup

Aymes Sarah
7 min readApr 22, 2020

A mind, body, and soul guide to becoming a better you after a big life change

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Nine years ago, I had escaped from the most emotionally draining relationship I’ve ever experienced. I was 26-years-old and felt like I was 80-years-old. My body and mind were exhausted, my heart was hurting.

I was drained from self-sacrificing and tired from trying to make something work that would never function in a healthy way.

My turning point came slowly, I never hit a “rock bottom”. Instead, I continued nurturing myself spiritually and physically until I dropped my bad habits.

10 years later, I have a thriving marriage and a beautiful family who loves me.

I found my happy place, but it didn’t fall into my lap, I made it happen by living well and attracting good things into my life.

Why do we feel so shaken up after a breakup?

After a breakup, we experience so many emotions: Grief, sadness, anger, shock, and even relief.

People handle these emotions differently. Ironically, the first thing most people do after trauma is self-destructive. For some reason, we are punishing ourselves for the pain we feel.



Aymes Sarah

Aymes is a freelance writer, social media manager, and published author. She co-owns a site ( ) with safety guide and tips!