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Are You Self-Sacrificing? Change Your Life With One Word
Why self-sacrifice is destructive and what you can do to curb the guilt associated with the word “No”
Saying “No” to people has always been a difficult thing for me. Even if the request is unreasonable, I still struggle with the guilt of disappointing someone in my life.
I was the most passive person I know and it led to me resenting people who didn’t deserve to be resented. This was my own fault. I said yes, way too many times when I should’ve been saying no.
I still struggle with this, I’m not good at making decisions or verbalizing what I want because of how I was raised. My parents are wonderful, loving people but I was quite sheltered and they always made decisions for me.
When I ventured into the world on my own, I was not prepared for the decision making that comes with being an adult.
Part of being a self-sufficient adult is knowing when to say no and when to say yes. I’m in my thirties and I am finally learning to listen to my gut instincts and only take on the tasks I can handle.
My health has gone downhill in the last year. I’ve been losing weight for no reason, experiencing numbness, shocks, and pain in my body, and I am extremely fatigued.
