Why self-sacrifice is destructive and what you can do to curb the guilt associated with the word “No”
Saying “No” to people has always been a difficult thing for me. Even if the request is unreasonable, I still struggle with the guilt of disappointing someone in my life.
I was the most passive person I know and it led to me resenting people who didn’t deserve to be resented. This was my own fault. I said yes, way too many times when I should’ve been saying no.
I still struggle with this, I’m not good at making decisions or verbalizing what I want because of how I was raised. My parents are wonderful, loving people but I was quite sheltered and they always made decisions for me.
When I ventured into the world on my own, I was not prepared for the decision making that comes with being an adult.
Part of being a self-sufficient adult is knowing when to say no and when to say yes. I’m in my thirties and I am finally learning to listen to my gut instincts and only take on the tasks I can handle.
My health has gone downhill in the last year. I’ve been losing weight for no reason, experiencing numbness, shocks, and pain in my body, and I am extremely fatigued.
I am an army wife and a mom of a young toddler. No wonder I’m tired, right?
Due to my Post-partum Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, I have a problem with control. I forget that my friends, family, and husband are perfectly capable to look after Willow.
I think I can do it all, but I’ve been struggling to juggle my writing and all of my commitments.
Recently, I’ve realized I need to look after myself to be healthy for my family. This epiphany has led me to say no to many requests and I feel no remorse for doing so.
In a short period of time, I have gained self-worth. Truthfully, I’ve been feeling pretty comfortable with the word no.
In this life, sometimes you have to be a bit selfish.
Are you self-sacrificing?
When you continuously say yes to things you don’t want to do, this leads to self-sacrifice, which leads to resentment. Resentment…