Channeling Your Ambition When You Are a Writer and Parent Who Works from Home
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Writing is a self-governing job that requires you to pull motivation from within. I recently began my career as a writer and I am a stay-at-home mother. Being a stay-at-home parent is also a job that requires you to push yourself daily to get things done. This dual role requires us to keep our motivation level elevated!
I am learning every day to keep a balance between work and home while still leaving some time for self-care.
Here are some ways that I have been staying on track and turning out quality work both in the home and on my laptop.
- Many successful parents/entrepreneurs recommend setting your alarm for earlier than your children wake up. This can give you time to get ready for the day, plan meals, meditate, or just have a relaxing cup of tea before the chaos begins. I will be honest, I do not do this because my daughter wakes up at 5:30 a.m! However, it is a productive way to start the morning.
- When you wake up in the morning, get dressed, comb your hair, and brush your teeth. Prepare yourself as you are going to work. Some people even dress up! You are working actual jobs, the only difference is that you are in your home. Studies show that when people wear business attire, they are more likely to professionally conduct themselves. Mind you, a sporadic pajama day is always a good reward for a job well done!
- If you are experiencing writers’ block, look to your surroundings for inspiration. Talk to other parents about their experiences and what they are struggling with. I have noticed when you get a group of mothers or fathers together, they always have something of value to say. I have been observing people in public and at social events for ideas for my next article. I also keep a list on my phone of ideas for future articles.
- Use writing as a reward. Writing is work, but I think most of us love what we do. I have been doing most of my chores in the morning and then I start my writing. This way I am clear-headed and relaxed without clutter surrounding me.
- Have a goal and reward yourself for reaching your goals. The goal could be financial or to write a predetermined amount by a specific time. Then once you reach that goal, buy yourself something! You could also invest in a hobby that you like to do or a date night with your partner.
- Beware of burnout. It is not possible to get everything done and putting that pressure on yourself will only set you up to fail. This will result in your confidence plummeting. Be sure to take a day off of writing when you can. Enjoy cuddling your children and spending time with them because they are only young once.
- Listening to a podcast or relaxing music while cleaning or writing, is a great way to pass the time. I prefer a podcast when I am cleaning and music without lyrics when I am writing. I cannot focus on my writing the way I want when a podcast is playing in the background. I notice that my chore time flies by when I have a good podcast on and my little helper with me!
- Do not be afraid to use television to distract your child while you write. Children need down-time and it gives you a chance to get some work done! These are the guidelines for the amount of screentime your child can have, based on their age, and according to the American Academy of Pediatrics.
Go easy on yourself and stay positive. Practice tenacity. I believe that being tenacious is a learned skill. You get stronger with each defeat and if you keep the right attitude, you will learn to persevere. If you fail at something, it is ok to feel down. Give yourself some time, then pick yourself up and soldier on! You can do this and you do it well!