How to Silence Your Inner Critic for Good

Aymes Sarah
5 min readJan 21, 2021

Why are we so hard on ourselves?

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We fight a battle within ourselves every day. If we haven't worked a lot this week, we are lazy. If we worked too much we are a neglectful parent, pet owner, or partner.

We strive to fit this perfect archetype that doesn't even exist. But why?

We hold ourselves accountable for things we cannot control, we refuse to give ourselves a break, and we drive our bodies into the ground for an old-age pension that we won’t get to enjoy because we will be too decrepit from working so much to make use of our newfound free time.

We refuse to get help when we are impacted by trauma, saying “I’ll get through it on my own,” as if we don’t deserve to heal.

We are punishing ourselves by becoming martyrs, but why?

Why Are We So Hard on Ourselves?

“People find the expression of emotion, even if it’s sadness, to be a pleasant experience.”

-“Believing in Magic”, Dr. Stuart Vyse

I’ve always noticed that the people who are hardest on themselves are the ones with the harshest “inner critic,” and pushing themselves is a way to silence this tiny naysayer.



Aymes Sarah

Aymes is a freelance writer, social media manager, and published author. She co-owns a site ( ) with safety guide and tips!