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The 7 Traits of a Personable Person
Learn to be likable and have the best conversations ever!
Some people have that thing, that natural quality that makes them innately likable. They make friends wherever they go and blend in with whatever crowd they’re with.
These people are likable. People who are liked tend to be promoted faster at work, live more active social lives, and are happier in general.
Upon completion of this article, I realized that most people have at least one of these 7 qualities.
If you don’t have some of these traits, never fear! Most of these attributes can be learned and honed. Personability is a learnable skill. Some people are just lucky enough to be born with it.
I love to observe people, I find it interesting. I like to sit back and watch how people interact in social settings. I love how each person has their own quirks and individual personalities. People are interesting.
Through these observations, I have come up with 7 traits that likable people have in common:
1. They are good at greeting others
People who are personable smile upon greeting you. Smiles are nice, they give us the “warm and fuzzies”, and they entice us to return the favor.
Another thing I’ve learned about people is that they really like the “two-handed” handshake. Basically, when you shake someone’s hand, you cup their hands with both hands. When I worked as a personal trainer, I was taught this gesture and I’ve used it ever since.
This handshake conveys a warm quality that people enjoy. It’s an uncommon way to greet someone, so it makes you more memorable.
In a job interview or a very professional setting, I don’t suggest using this gesture as it can appear unprofessional. However, if you’re meeting someone in a more casual setting, it works!
2. They’re excellent active listeners
Obviously, a big part of communication is listening. Many people listen partially, waiting for their turn to talk. A people person is totally focused on you when you’re talking and actively listening.
