Pale Women Are Beautiful Too: Stop Saying We Need a Tan

I am not pasty, sickly, or a vampire. I am embracing my natural skin-tone

Aymes Sarah
6 min readJul 2, 2020


Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash

I have always been pale and was very insecure about it.

When I was 6-years-old, the kids in my class started calling me “ghosty” and a vampire. Their words really hurt me and I would cry to my mother when I came home from school.

I wondered where they learned their dislike for pale skin at such a young age? Was it from the media that mocks paleness or their parents? Either way, those little kids were misguided and I never retaliated because I believed I was ugly.

My whole life, people have been telling me to “get a tan” or asking me if I’m sick.

I have been judged by the color of my skin but not in the terrible, oppressive way that People of Color have been. I want to make it clear that this article is not a comparison to their struggle because my struggle will never compare.

The tanned “California girl” look is revered in our society. Personally, I think some people overdo the tanning and offensively tread the line of impersonating People of Color.

I have tanned and bronzed myself, only to feel weird in my own skin. This is because I was doing it for other people and not for myself.

I didn’t look like myself when I was tanned. I received many compliments when I was “bronzed up”, but that didn’t mean anything to me if I didn’t feel good in my own skin.

By the time my nineteenth birthday rolled around, I had black hair and was embracing my pale skin.

On the night of my “legal age” celebrations, a handsome young man walked up to me and gave me a rose. He said: “You remind me of Snow White”. Then he walked away without waiting for an answer from me.

This was a stark contrast to the people who called me a vampire and smiled at me, waiting for a reaction.

That was the first and last time someone ever said something nice about my “paleness” and I never forgot it. Thank you, mystery dude.

I let my natural beauty shine through and someone noticed.



Aymes Sarah

Wife, mother, and researcher of a myriad of subjects. I love to write about anything and everything! Writer for The Startup, Better Marketing, & The Ascent👊