If You’ve Been Dumped, This is How You’ll Get Your Happy Ending

Aymes Sarah
7 min readJan 17, 2020

It’s time to let go of the past and reclaim your independence!

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Eight years ago my ex-fiancé and I broke up. I am happily married now and I believe it’s because I started my life over completely when we broke up. I had no attachment to him or his life, I held onto nothing relating to him.

When we allow ourselves to remain attached in any way to our ex-partners, we never fully heal from the breakup. This prevents us from finding someone we truly love because we are stuck in the past.

There are many ways people keep their attachment to their exes alive. It could be through a pet, mutual friends, or social media. However, keeping these ties alive will only prolong your misery.

Many people use items and people to remain attached to an ex because they’re not ready to let go and move on with their lives.

A friend of mine lived in an apartment she shared with an ex until the last possible moment. She couldn’t afford the place and literally risked homelessness by not looking for another place. Why? Because being there made her feel closer to him, even though he had left weeks before.

Heartbreak makes us do some weird things. I’ve always been a passive person in my relationships. Oddly enough, when my breakup happened, something inside me snapped and I moved into action. This approach worked well for me, I was moved out before he even had a chance to change his mind!

For me, it’s a pride thing. I don’t stay where I’m not wanted and I refuse to dwell on someone who doesn’t want me.

If someone breaks up with you, they do not want to be with you anymore. This is why we must leave and take our dignity with us.

Hanging on to the past only makes you look and feel desperate. This will lower your self-esteem and keep you in a victim mindset.

If you allow yourself to leave the victim mindset behind, you can easily transition into your new life. Naturally, you need to be willing to make some changes.

If you are cohabitating, immediately figure out your living arrangements

Pick yourself up, wipe off the tears, and take action. Pack your things that day, I…



Aymes Sarah

Wife, mother, and researcher of a myriad of subjects. I love to write about anything and everything! Writer for The Startup, Better Marketing, & The Ascent👊