This Phenomenon Can Change the Way You Deal With Negativity in Your Life

Aymes Sarah
7 min readNov 6, 2020

Our negative thoughts are driven by biology but we can fight against them

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Have you ever had a day filled with nothing but positivity, then you have one negative experience and it changes your entire outlook?

This could be a negative comment from a coworker or a small mistake you made at work or home. It is a minuscule thing, yet you still allow it to consume you for the rest of the week. You start to doubt your abilities, your self-worth is impacted, and you feel incapable.

Despite the awesome things you’ve achieved all week, this one comment or mistake is all you can think about.

The interesting thing about this thought process is that it’s purposely rooted in our psyche. This is a biological response called “Negativity Bias” or “The Negativity Effect.”

This Is Why We Sometimes Dwell on Negativity

Last week, I spoke with one of my friends on the phone. She is a counselor who previously treated me and I was complimenting her on what an amazing support person she is.

She told me that my praise meant the world to her but she recently received negative feedback from a client. Although she is one of the best in her field, this incident made her…



Aymes Sarah

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