Where Do You Fit In? The One Expectation That Will Kill Any Friendship

Aymes Sarah
6 min readMay 24, 2020

Best friends are not always forever

Photo by Elijah O’Donnell from Pexels

Good friendships are hard to find and even harder to maintain.

Recently, I’ve been reevaluating my friendship circle and thinking about where I fit into each of my friend’s lives.

Where did this pondering streak come from?

This quote I read on Facebook really resonated with me:

Sometimes you need to know your place in someone’s life, because you might get hurt if you expect too much. — Unknown

Have you ever read a quote and it stabs you right in “the feels”? This quote did something to me.

In the last couple of years, most of my close friends have been going through some kind of transition: Breakups, moving, university graduation or acceptance, babies, the decision not to have babies, and the list goes on.

I have never seen less of my friend circle and to be honest: It sucks!

It’s not just them though — it’s me too. I’m the matriarch of my little nuclear family and I’m a writer. As we all know, both of these roles can be isolating.

However, I still have time for those who matter to me. If you want to keep a friendship going, a two-way street is paramount.



Aymes Sarah

Aymes is a freelance writer, social media manager, and published author. She co-owns a site ( www.personalsafetyschool.com ) with safety guide and tips!